To really understand healing means to understand that there is no difference whatsoever between physical, mental, spiritual and emotional healing. We are looking at healing from a holistic view where all these are connected, every one of them being the projection of the others on a different plane of existence.
Emotion = Energy in motion
We feel with our entire being—body, as well as mind and spirit. When we feel happy, we don’t only feel it in our mind and our nervous system. Our face is happy, our heart is happy, our skin, stomach, and even our hair manifest that happiness. When we are sad, our whole body is sad. Feelings carry through our whole body and manifest through what are called emotional charges, pockets of energy containing information—what is called Chi in Traditional Chinese medicine. Emotions are carried through our nervous system and our endocrine system. In biology, the endocrine system has the function of intercellular communication throughout the body and there are many connections between what we know about the endocrine system and the Chakras – or energetic-informational centers of the body from Eastern traditions.
Unlike the thoughts, emotions don’t care about solutions or comprehension. Understanding them doesn’t change them. We can’t change feelings the way we do thoughts by “knowing better”. The only thing we can do to change our emotions is to outgrow them. This is literal: emotionally growing means growing physically by “digesting” these emotions, taking what we need from them and eliminating what we don’t.
Emotions Are the Food of Our Soul
When we talk about “growing” as a person, we can understand it literally. We feed every day on different kinds of emotions, and we literally digest them. This makes us grow. Emotional maturity means having digested a sufficiently wide spectrum of human feelings to allow us to function independent of any form of parental protection, authority figure or external guidance. It means taking our power back.
Every day we absorb a certain quantity of emotions in the form of energetic charges created by our body’s reactions to feelings. Some of these charges are easy to digest, some harder to digest and some are quite indigestible. We call these latter type toxic or negative emotions. Where do these charges go when not digested? To exactly the same place that any toxic food would go in our body, to various places of storage: the liver, body fat, the lymphatic system, and any tissue and location that has meaning for that particular emotion. Every part of the body has a function, which has a corresponding meaning for the emotional self that is going to hold and hide the energetic charge there.
How can we hide anything inside our own body? We do it all the time. Actually, the body can’t really forget anything. Unlike the nervous system, which has to constantly select from all the information needed at one time to fit it on the small screen of our awareness, every single cell in our body contains all of the information from all of evolution since the day of creation. So our body doesn’t really forget anything; rather, it chooses not to remember something in particular.
We are born to enjoy life. Unfortunately, the way we perceive life is not always enjoyable. To protect us from the pain of emotional distress, our bodies are equipped with a very sophisticated protection system. This denial system protects us from permanently feeling bad from the emotions we don’t have the capacity to address due to lack of maturity or knowledge, or a weakness in our support system. This denial system, the “guardian,” is in charge of hiding the emotions until we are able to meet the conditions that will allow us to digest them. And grow from them. Since we are born to enjoy life, every single part of our body is entitled to participate in this enjoyment. When we hide an emotional charge somewhere in our body, this place doesn’t feel bad because it has become numb. But, in the same time, it can’t feel good either. The role of our guardian is also to let us know when we finally meet the requirements to be able to face our emotions. Once we are mature enough, stable enough, strong enough, and have a sufficient support system, the guardian lets us know this through a symptom. A symptom is then an attempt from our deeper inner self to let us know that it is time to change. Time to grow. Time to heal.
What Is Healing?
First, we must define healing. The conventional medical approach is to cure symptoms and conditions that cause suffering through the use of medication, surgery and, more recently, genetic engineering. The basic philosophy behind this approach is the assumption that nature is not to be trusted—that nature has problems that need to be solved through human intervention.
The holistic approach, on the other hand, assumes that since we are the product of millions of years of evolution, we are pretty much perfect. At least to the degree of perfection possible in a Universe in constant evolution. Perfection, as a matter of fact, is not an attribute of nature; therefore, it is not a human attribute either. What is natural and human is to be able to improve all the time. It is to progress constantly, following the need to adapt to the ever-changing, ever-evolving world. Something perfect cannot be improved any further. Perfection is not an attribute of this Universe; it is an attribute of what rules the Universe. If we experience diseases and conditions, it is either as an attempt to adapt or because we lack the information that would prevent these health problems. Symptoms are usually messages from within, asking for help and demanding evolution. Most of our pains come from healthy reactions to unhealthy situations in our bodies in which we often find ourselves involved.
The principle of health—what is healthy—draws a very fine line between too much and not enough. Health is not about balance since life is about motion and movement. Complete balance describes a static world not even found in death. To live well, we need a constant state of imbalance that moves us in the direction of the progression, evolution, and expansion of the universe to maintain harmony within it. Too little would require the constant effort of having to catch up with the pace of life, while too much would bring us ahead of our time with the catastrophic results of non-adaptation and rejection.
Healing is also about fulfilling our life purpose. It involves being in harmony with the evolution of our time. Our life purpose is about fulfilling our individual role as a member of existence. Many of us get sick from “not being on the right track.” We find ourselves in life situations that are foreign to our nature or unfair to our spirit, and we find our bodies and souls rebelling against this. Most of the time, our conscious mind doesn’t understand the situation. Only after enduring painful symptoms, we are given the chance to make the necessary changes to go through our healing process.
The Healing Process
The healing process is the physical and mental manifestation of the internal conflict between the part of us that wants to evolve and grow, and the part of us that is afraid of going through the pains of change and growth. Change is the hardest thing to go through in life and requires the transition time of the healing process, which often requires the intervention of symptoms, accidents, or life crises to bring awareness of the need for change.
The healing process is the -often- uncomfortable transition time between that place of familiarity we all come from, and that new better place, which is still not familiar enough to be comfortable. It means becoming comfortable in a place that is uncomfortable. This is why the healing process is also called a healing crisis. Healing is always a step forward in evolution. There is no healing without change. Once we are healed, there is no turning back and no suffering through the same symptoms again. The healing process does not need to be painful, but will always contain an amount of confusion where the old patterns, the old self, need to be discarded. The old self needs to die in order for the new self to be born. For this reason, specific conditions have to be met in order for healing to take place.
From the psychological perspective, there is no real dumping of negative emotions, in the true sense of the word. There is no such thing as a final emotional release. When we release emotionally, an energetic charge is moving, changing place, perhaps changing shape, but it is not disappearing. It is moving, it is transforming. It is a process. When we become aware of an emotional charge and feeling it, it doesn’t mean that it has been taken care of even if we cry, scream or go into convulsion and spasm. Such actions are mere reactions to an unpleasant situation. They don’t mean that the healing is complete.
Real emotional processing is an emotional transformation that changes the negative aspects of the charge into positive ones. This happens with a shift in the whole person, not only at the emotional level, but also at the physical, mental, and spiritual levels. There is no such thing as changing only here and there. The body is very consistent: If one part of us changes, not only the whole body, but our whole personality has to shift and adapt to that change. It is not a part of our body, or our mind, or a part of our emotional makeup changing. It is we in that part of our body, we in that part of our mind, we in that part of our emotional self who change. In short, our whole being changes.
When such a change occurs, it is by using the same biological matter, the same energy that has been there all along. Only now it has been recycled and digested, and it has transformed and evolved. This recycling aspect of emotional energy is a very important one. Energy is like water. When water circulates, oxygen enters the water and kills bacteria. When water stagnates, bacteria grow, and the water becomes poisonous. Like water, when energy circulates, it is healthy. When it slows down and stops, it becomes toxic. We should never store Chi for very long. When we “store” Chi during certain Qi-Kung exercises, it is only for a short time, the same way we store water in a tank for continuous use in a house. The water stored there is never the same because it keeps circulating.
The work of a healer in this new healing paradigm is not only to unblock the emotional charge, but it is also to make sure that the energy contained there is going to move and change. There is no point in moving dirt from under one carpet to under another one. But neither can we dump that dirt, even to put it under a cosmic size carpet. That dirt has to be put back to use. Life has to be put back into it, then it has to be put in a place where it can be enjoyed. This is what happens during healing: the energy spent to hold a pathology in place turns into the healing energy surge that melts tumors and reverses diseases, and the negative emotional pattern turns into a positive one. No energy is lost, no energy is gained. This is the law of physics, the law of nature.